Category Archives: Sexuality

Aging Bull(shit)

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Plastic surgery and all other attempts to “reduce signs of aging” are just another phase in a long line of oppressive prescriptions placed on women. This one is just like corsets, hoop skirts, foot binding, burkhas, genital mutilation, high heel shoes, constricting clothing, excessive thinness, dieting, tanning salons, and on and on.

All such customs and fads serve to keep the focus on women’s appearance above all else, reducing their time for more meaningful activities as well as limiting perceptions of women’s worth. The beauty practices are also great at generating economic activity, of course–none of this stuff is cheap and most of it requires continual maintenance and updating. If some cabal got together and planned out this grand conspiracy, it wouldn’t be any better than what we already have without a grand plan: brilliant methods for preserving male power in the personal, political, and economic realms. Ironically (or not), excessive thinness, plastic surgery, and all these other things really don’t improve women’s appearances, and in many cases make them look worse. One’s safety can be impacted as well: the diminished ability of a woman hobbled by high heels to evade an attacker is a form of powerlessness not unrelated to the reduction of women’s power in other areas. But then, we all know the only power a woman needs is the power to attract a man.

Really, the worst part is that most women willingly embrace these “beauty” practices, they spend vast amounts of time and money and psychic energy on being what they’re told to be–even when it’s painful, even when it doesn’t magically get them what they want. And they judge one another based on adherence to current norms–so it was probably a woman shouting about Hillary C’s looks at CPAC, when Paul Begala rightfully proclaimed her  a “real woman” for not trying to pretend she has no wrinkles.

From the GOP’s event Conservative Parade of Asinine Corporatism (CPAC):
Paul Begala: Hillary Clinton Doesn’t Need A ‘Facelift,’ She’s ‘A Real Woman,’ Not A ‘Republican Society Lady’
Democratic strategist and CNN contributor Paul Begala faced off against conservative media mogul Tucker Carlson for an event at CPAC on Thursday, exchanging jabs on a number of political topics. Given the opportunity, Begala also shot down a conservative audience member who attempted to get in a jab at Hillary Clinton.
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“She would be a great president,” Begala said of Clinton, going on to claim that the fact that Republicans are already attacking her is a sign they are “afraid.”
“I hope she does (run) — I have no idea if she will,” Begala continued, going on to list a number of things that he believes Clinton wants to do outside of electoral politics.
“I think she’s actually gonna first live a life, write her book, reacquaint herself with the real world…” he started.
“Get a facelift!” someone in the crowd interjected, seemingly channeling a topic of discussion on Fox News last month.
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“No, not get a facelift,” Begala said. “She’s not a Republican society lady, she’s a real woman.”
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I hope that Hillary doesn’t succumb to all the pressure, but if she does run for Prez, the pressure to conform will probably be too great to resist. And too many other women will judge her harshly if she doesn’t stretch out those wrinkles.

Rape and Responsibility

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From Wonkette 3/9/13

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT 5:45 PM MARCH 8, 2013

HONESTLY, YOU GUYS, ‘NOT RAPING’ IS ACTUALLY REALLY EASY
by JEFF WATTRICK

Today is International Women’s Day, which means two things. First, we have to listen to people say stupid things like: “I’m not a sexist, but why isn’t there an International Men’s Day?” The correct answer to that question is International Men’s Day is in November and the more correct answer is (read in your best Hank Hill voice): “Shut up. You don’t really want to celebrate International Men’s Day. Stop being a baby always manufacturing fake controversies so you can feign outrage.” The other thing thing that, apparently, happens on International Women’s Day is people lose their crap over a perfectly reasonable suggestion that men should not ever rape women. Zerlina Maxwell said as much on Fox News and now she is…wait for it…receiving rape threats.

As Maxwell tells Salon, her point to Hannity was not about self-defense; it was about how we look at the big picture. “Telling every woman to get a gun is not rape prevention,” she explains. “The reality is that we need to be changing how we train and teach young men. We need to teach them to see women as human beings and respect their bodily autonomy. We need to teach them about consent and to hold themselves accountable.” And when we do, things change. After Canada launched a “Don’t be that guy” consent awareness campaign in 2011, the sexual assault rate dropped for the first time in years — by 10 percent.

Dear God, what the hell is wrong with people? There is absolutely no good reason why suggesting that people should not do something that is both morally abhorrent and a crime should be controversial. As Canada proved, it’s not only a valid message but an effective one if you are interested in reducing sexual assault.
Don’t rape. Full stop. It’s really that simple.

It’s not even that hard to not rape. Yr Wonket on this post happens to be a man who has gone his entire life without ever raping anyone. Days go by, months and years even, where Yr Wonket doesn’t rape and doesn’t even think about the fact that he is not raping! This (sadly) might be a weird concept to some people, let’s push through to the end here, but someone else’s body doesn’t belong to you and you can’t do things to/with said other person’s body without their permission. Permission shall not be assumed based on skirt length. Let’s repeat that to make sure everyone heard it: Permission shall not be assumed based on skirt length. Also, it’s not ok to rape someone, or threaten to rape someone, for telling you this. No exceptions.
It would be nice if those things could be left unsaid in 2013 America, but no. They must be said over and over again because too many of you don’t get it. Happy God Damn International Women’s Day.

Really, who benefits by not shifting all rape prevention meaures to perpetrators, not victims?

Leave-iticus

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SHAMEFUL DISCLAIMER: I did not write this post, and I truly intended to credit the author, but forgot. Now when I tried every google combo I could to find the original I couldn’t find it. I’m not a thief, I swear. I apologize to the author of this, and if anyone knows who that is please send me a comment.

Levit-alone-icus

When citing Leviticus and other scripture to justify gay-hate, let us not forget the other equally serious sins laid out in that infallible book!

By now we’re all familiar with this christian favorite on HOMOSEXUALITY: “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” —Leviticus 20:13.

For those who dutifully follow every rule in that BOOK, don’t forget these!

1. No Free Speech: “He who blasphemes the name of the Lord shall be put to death; all the congregation shall stone him (Lev. 24:16)

2. No Bacon For You: “And the swine, because it parts the hoof and is cloven-footed but does not chew the cud, is unclean to you. Of their flesh you shall not eat, and their carcasses you shall not touch; they are unclean to you.” (Lev. 11:7–8)

3. Blood, Sacrifice, Burn: to atone for sins, the priest must kill a bull, gut it, then burn it on an altar. (Lev. 4:1–10)
[NOTE: The first several chapters of Leviticus are devoted to mandatory animal sacrifices, such as the wringing of turtledoves’ necks, the cutting open of goats and bulls, and the vivisection of female lambs, for various sins.]

4. God loves Slavery: feel free to buy, sell and trade slaves, they are your property. “You may bequeath them to your sons after you, to inherit as a Possession for ever.” (Lev. 25:44–46)

5. Uh oh Obesity Epidemic: “It shall be a perpetual statute throughout Your generations, in all your dwelling places, that you eat neither fat nor blood.” (Lev. 3:17)

6. No Mullets For You: “You shall not round off the hair on your temples or mar the edges of your beard.” (Lev. 19:27)

7. Put That Shellfish On the Shelf: “Everything in the waters that has fins and scales, whether in the seas or in the rivers, you may eat. But anything in the rivers that has not fins and scales, of the swarming creatures in the waters and of the living creatures that are in the waters, is an abomination to you.” (Lev. 11:9–12)

8. Firing Squad or Guillotine?: “If a man commits adultery with the wife of his neighbor, both the adulterer and the adulteress shall be put to death.” (Lev. 20:10)

9. No Wonder Teapublicans Voted Doen UN Treaty on People With Disabilities:

“For no one who has a blemish shall draw near, a man blind or lame, or who has a mutilated face or a limb too long, or a man who has an injured foot or an injured hand, or a hunchback, or a dwarf, or a man with a defect in his sights or an itching disease or scabs or crushed testicles; no man of the descendants of Aaron the priest who has a blemish shall come near to offer the Lord’s offerings by fire; since he has a blemish, he shall not come near to offer the bread of his God…He shall not come near the veil or approach the altar, because he has a blemish, that he may not profane my sanctuaries…” (Lev. 21:18–23)

Better Betties (not Friedan)

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More evidence of how dead the revolutionary movement of FEMINISM is. Killed by media backlash, by brilliant/sick marketing of toys, fashion, cosmetics, values; killed by women who got tired of fighting, and younger women benefitting from those fights without knowing the origin or cost of their expanded opportunities. Not caring to know because they’re taught it’s enough.

And yet conservative media likes to keep its twisted idea of feminism in the news, telling all to believe there’s some active man-hating cabal out there controlling women to the detriment of men in power (if only!).

On Fox news recently, Dana Perino warned that women should “make better decisions” to avoid being beaten or killed by their abusers. And later, Suzanne Venker at Fox warns us all that men are retreating from marriage because “men say women are no longer women.” She suggests we all get in touch with our feminine side to remedy this matter post-haste. Otherwise who knows, women might bypass marriage to unstable men in favor of self-sufficient (safe!) alternatives and that can’t be allowed!?!

Venker: “You begin by accepting that men and women are different. Equal, but different. This means you’ll have to reject feminist dogma since feminism has taught you that equality means sameness.”

Nothing like a good straw(woman) to advance an empty argument. Those old lies about what equality means, what feminists want, how men/marriage/women/children/our entire civilization are being DESTROYED by the outrageous pursuit of gender equality…why haven’t we (feminists, progressives, smart people) done a better job of countering the falsehoods and continually promoting our values through this fog of war?

Ah geez, it’s way more fun to shop for clothes, makeup, shoes, boobs, that turn me into the fuckable object everyone wants me to be. Back off you old dyke.
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