Plastic surgery and all other attempts to “reduce signs of aging” are just another phase in a long line of oppressive prescriptions placed on women. This one is just like corsets, hoop skirts, foot binding, burkhas, genital mutilation, high heel shoes, constricting clothing, excessive thinness, dieting, tanning salons, and on and on.
All such customs and fads serve to keep the focus on women’s appearance above all else, reducing their time for more meaningful activities as well as limiting perceptions of women’s worth. The beauty practices are also great at generating economic activity, of course–none of this stuff is cheap and most of it requires continual maintenance and updating. If some cabal got together and planned out this grand conspiracy, it wouldn’t be any better than what we already have without a grand plan: brilliant methods for preserving male power in the personal, political, and economic realms. Ironically (or not), excessive thinness, plastic surgery, and all these other things really don’t improve women’s appearances, and in many cases make them look worse. One’s safety can be impacted as well: the diminished ability of a woman hobbled by high heels to evade an attacker is a form of powerlessness not unrelated to the reduction of women’s power in other areas. But then, we all know the only power a woman needs is the power to attract a man.
Really, the worst part is that most women willingly embrace these “beauty” practices, they spend vast amounts of time and money and psychic energy on being what they’re told to be–even when it’s painful, even when it doesn’t magically get them what they want. And they judge one another based on adherence to current norms–so it was probably a woman shouting about Hillary C’s looks at CPAC, when Paul Begala rightfully proclaimed her a “real woman” for not trying to pretend she has no wrinkles.
NBC News, Feb. 24, 2013
A 4-year-old Houston boy fatally shot himself with his father’s stolen handgun Sunday morning. While the father was asleep on the couch his son picked up the gun and shot himself in the stomach, according to Houston Police.
WBTV.com, Feb. 11, 2013
After finding a gun in her mother’s bedroom, police say a 4-year-old child shot herself in the leg Monday evening in Charlotte, NC.
Minneapolis Star Tribune, Dec. 12, 2012
A 4-year-old boy accidentally shot and killed his younger brother Wednesday afternoon while playing with their father’s handgun in the family’s Minneapolis townhouse. According to police, the 2-year-old victim died after his brother discovered the loaded handgun in a bedroom and it discharged while he was handling it.
WRAL, NC Local News, Jan. 27, 2012
Durham, NC police report that a 4-year-old found a gun and accidentally shot himself at a house in the Ashefield Place subdivision Friday morning.
NY Daily News, July 28, 2012
In Woodbridge, VA on Wednesday, police say a 4-year-old boy accidentally shot himself to death after climbing into a family member’s unlocked truck parked outside the house and finding a handgun stashed inside.
NewsOne, July 17, 2012
A 4-year-old girl accidentally shot herself with her father’s gun on Monday. The Detroit toddler found her dad’s 9mm pistol in the glove compartment of his SUV. She mistakenly fired a round into her thigh and was taken to a nearby hospital. She is in stable condition now.
ABC15.com, Nov. 12, 2011
On Saturday morning in Surprise, AZ, 4-year-old boy was injured while playing with a handgun. Family members told police the pistol was in a holster on a nightstand in the master bedroom when the boy got hold of it. No charges were filed.
Telegraph, Jan. 2009
After his 18-year old babysitter stepped on his foot, police say a 4-year old boy stormed off to his bedroom “to get a gun.” Those present assumed he was fetching a toy. But the toddler reappeared clasping a shotgun taken from a bedroom cupboard and fired at the babysitter and his friends, who sustained moderate injuries.
Clown car creening off the edge
From Wonkette 3/9/13
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT 5:45 PM MARCH 8, 2013
HONESTLY, YOU GUYS, ‘NOT RAPING’ IS ACTUALLY REALLY EASY
by JEFF WATTRICK
Today is International Women’s Day, which means two things. First, we have to listen to people say stupid things like: “I’m not a sexist, but why isn’t there an International Men’s Day?” The correct answer to that question is International Men’s Day is in November and the more correct answer is (read in your best Hank Hill voice): “Shut up. You don’t really want to celebrate International Men’s Day. Stop being a baby always manufacturing fake controversies so you can feign outrage.” The other thing thing that, apparently, happens on International Women’s Day is people lose their crap over a perfectly reasonable suggestion that men should not ever rape women. Zerlina Maxwell said as much on Fox News and now she is…wait for it…receiving rape threats.
As Maxwell tells Salon, her point to Hannity was not about self-defense; it was about how we look at the big picture. “Telling every woman to get a gun is not rape prevention,” she explains. “The reality is that we need to be changing how we train and teach young men. We need to teach them to see women as human beings and respect their bodily autonomy. We need to teach them about consent and to hold themselves accountable.” And when we do, things change. After Canada launched a “Don’t be that guy” consent awareness campaign in 2011, the sexual assault rate dropped for the first time in years — by 10 percent.
Dear God, what the hell is wrong with people? There is absolutely no good reason why suggesting that people should not do something that is both morally abhorrent and a crime should be controversial. As Canada proved, it’s not only a valid message but an effective one if you are interested in reducing sexual assault.
Don’t rape. Full stop. It’s really that simple.
It’s not even that hard to not rape. Yr Wonket on this post happens to be a man who has gone his entire life without ever raping anyone. Days go by, months and years even, where Yr Wonket doesn’t rape and doesn’t even think about the fact that he is not raping! This (sadly) might be a weird concept to some people, let’s push through to the end here, but someone else’s body doesn’t belong to you and you can’t do things to/with said other person’s body without their permission. Permission shall not be assumed based on skirt length. Let’s repeat that to make sure everyone heard it: Permission shall not be assumed based on skirt length. Also, it’s not ok to rape someone, or threaten to rape someone, for telling you this. No exceptions.
It would be nice if those things could be left unsaid in 2013 America, but no. They must be said over and over again because too many of you don’t get it. Happy God Damn International Women’s Day.
Really, who benefits by not shifting all rape prevention meaures to perpetrators, not victims?